Dedicated to the memory of Lucinda Jayne Allen - Lucy Cox
This site is a tribute to Lucinda Jayne Allen nee - Cox. She is much loved and will always be remembered.
Lu's life is not a tragedy... it's a story of courage, strength and beauty. Someone who didn't know what "surrender" means.
She had the most cracking sense of humour, and was most willing to laugh at herself.
She fought right after her stroke. She fought like a cornered wolf. She fought to save Marri-Alice, and refused medication that could have helped HER, because it was unsure if it would harm that beloved baby inside her.
Even before her illness, she fought to be the healthiest Mother that there would be... ate right, exercised, learned all she could.
She fought for the people she was an Occupational Therapist for, and always saw the best in them.
She saw the best in other people, always being upfront enough to be honest.
It's not fair that the bleed took so much away... but it left the best of her. She was bloody tough... full of love... full of laughter...
She never, ever gave up. And, she not only never gave up on herself, she never have up on anyone else either.
So, when you think of her... don't be sad. Don't think of all she didn't have. Think of all she has given us, all she has been.... and follow her example. When things get hard, roll your sleeves up, make your hair pink, dance like a troll, then get on with sorting things out.
The loss of anyone we love is more painful than we believe we can bear... but... she is no tragic figure, in my mind at least... she is so very, very much more.
She would not want us to be pained thinking of her. She told me once that she wanted to have her funeral before she died, so she could hire a DJ to play the music she loved, to throw confetti, and dance until the sun came up.
When you think of her, smile and laugh at her humour, her beauty, her unique ways of seeing and dealing with the world.
The thing she wanted more than anything was to get stroke services to evolve to take better care of younger survivors- maybe that's something we can campaign for.
I will never forget her. She made me a better nurse, a better cripple, and a better human, and I'm not the only one she changed. That's some power.
I'm not trying to belittle anyone's pain. I know it's been hard, and this end is so so unfair - but please, take heart... and remember, love never dies.
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